I have had three children and I have
been far from perfect as a parent. I am not a bad parent and although I have
made lots of mistakes, I have done a lot of good as well. Over all I would say I
have accomplished a solid B effort but had A results because I have had good
kids who are not troubled. I have friends around me that do amazing jobs
raising their kids. I am amazed at so many parents around me that have done a
much better job than I have. To many factors play into part weather you do a
good job or not. I believe parents are ABOUT 70% of the equation and 30% is the
kid and situation. (BTW this is just Dwight’s opinion) I have seen many parents
who did the bare minimum who have had amazing results in how the kids turn out,
and I have seen amazing parents who put more effort in a day than I do in a
week and the results are not very promising.
That being said, it is hard work. That’s
why normally two of you share the responsibility because it is not for the
faint of heart. For those who are a single parent, God bless you. I played the
single parent for a while, I almost didn’t survive. I am always amazed at Dr.
Ben Carson’s mother (Sonya Carson) who raised several children, with no
husband, she was illiterate, and worked two jobs as a cleaning lady. She gave
those kids what they needed, and the result was amazing. Ben not only finished,
high school, college, but then became a doctor and then the youngest head of
pediatric neurosurgery at John Hopkins Medical Center and was the first
pediatric neurosurgeon to separate conjoined twins connected at the head. If
Sonya can do it, any of us can. But you can’t do it alone; you need God’s help
and God’s instruction.
This verse is one of the instructions.
Remember it is not about what the child wants, but what they need. If you look
at the seven habits of highly effective people “Habit Number 2” is essential,
it says, “Begin with the end in mind” if you can visualize your child very successful
at 30 years old, then ask yourself the question how do I get them there. Well,
it says it pretty clearly in the bible verse above, “Train up a child in the
way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. - Proverbs
22:6 (NKJ)
What should you train them up in:
1. To
love God and follow his word
2. Fill
in the gaps where schools don’t. Like finances, taking care of a car and all
those skill sets that people need day to day.
3. Hard
work (they should know what an honest day’s work is) followed by fun family
time
4. Responsibility,
they should know what they need to do and be held accountable in that area.
5. Manners
and morals. This skill set will carry them far especially during a job
interview.
6. And
of course Jesus number 1 commandment, Love one another. This comes in to
relationship skill set where any two or more people need to treat each other
with love and respect.
Lord, let me invest in what You have
given me, let me not grow weary and tired for doing the right thing. Let me
invest my time and efforts in my children and help them follow You and give
them the necessary skills they will need to be good and successful people. In
Jesus name, Amen.
Ben Carson interview
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